LMT3 – Survey results … and thank you

Thank you for taking the time to fill out the survey. This will go a long way to helping me put together the best possible training for you.

Below are the results of the survey.

The number 1 problems were as follows:

-Personal issues: Example not feeling as good as other successful people
-What should we call ourselves?
-How to explain TLM to people who know nothing about it and get them to understand the benefits
-How to explain TLM to hard-nosed business people who don’t want to look at their feelings or self-esteem beliefs
-How to find all the beliefs that underlie a problem
-Stuck clients: For example a client still says she “feels” the belief and that the AI are not real to her

Professions
Almost all of you are coaches with one of you being a teacher.

What did you want help with?

50% of you want help with alternative interpretations
50% want help in finding patterns

Because you took the time to fill out the survey, I will make sure during the course to spend time on each of the issues you brought up.

However, I can address some of them now.

1. What should we call ourselves?
When you become certified in the Lefkoe Method, you can proudly call yourself a Certified Lefkoe Method Facilitator. This means that you’ve completed all training and other requirements and that we certify that you get results with clients.

When you are not certified you can call yourself a belief coach or behavior change coach depending on your niche. You can create the name based on the audience you are targeting and the benefits you are promising that audience.

If your main market is wannabe entrepreneurs who are afraid to take action, then I suggest calling yourself something like a “Behavior Change Coach” or even a “Transition Coach.” But if your market is people who want to reduce their stress, you might call yourself a “Stress Relief Coach” or even a “Wellness Coach” especially if TLM is just one of many things you do.

Keep in mind that in the US and most other countries, there are no laws governing who can and cannot call themselves a coach. So what you call yourself is really up to you.

2. How to explain TLM to people who know nothing about it and get them to understand the benefits

I rarely explain TLM to people. Instead, I engage in a conversation about what they do and they ask me what I do. Then I give one of my elevator speeches. One of them is “You know how a lot of people have bad habits they’ve wanted to change for years?” The person nods or says yes. Then I reply, “I’m a behavior change coach. What I do is help people change their hard-to-change behaviors.”

Some people get curious and then ask for more information. Some do not.

If they show some interest, I’ll then ask them if they or anyone they know has habits they’d like to change.

Most say yes.

I’ll ask for an example. And then I explain what I do using that example.

Sometimes if I feel they might be open to it, I’ll directly ask them for an example of something they want to change and engage in a conversation about that. I’ll actually help them identify the pattern right then and there and even help them find some beliefs.

Once they see that I’m good at helping them find beliefs, they are super-curious about how to get rid of them.

The main thing is not to get into as one survey responded described “all the benefits of TLM.” Instead focus only on the benefits to that one person. Focus on helping them with their specific problems and issues and more of them will get that you are a professional who will support them.

3. How to explain TLM to hard-nosed business people who don’t want to look at their feelings or self-esteem beliefs

For business people, I avoid talk about feelings and self-esteem … at least at first. Instead, I focus on behavior. What behaviors they want to change.

Then I ask them what thoughts they have that come before those behaviors. Then I explain that a pattern of thoughts comes from some place … and that place is beliefs.

Ideally, I’d like to find a non-self belief to help a business person with at first if possible. If that’s not possible, I will guide them into the logic behind why a person’s self-concept has such a big impact on their behavior. I avoid words like self-esteem which might seem airy, fairy to them.

Fortunatley, most people in business recognize the importance of confidence and you can explain that this comes from a person’s self-concepts. A person might have a concept of himself as “not good enough” and no matter what that person does, he never feels good enough for example.

So with business people I tend to change the language I use (this is a good idea for many audiences). Focus on behaviors and thoughts. Avoid language they might consider to be touchy-feely. Get to feelings only when needed and ONLY as an explanation for behaviors they’ve been unable to change.

Also, with a business person, get the behavior pattern. Get feelings and thoughts. But also ask them if they’ve tried to change that behavior before and ask how successful they were in making those changes. You can show them that the strategies they used didn’t work. And you can explain that it has to do with their beliefs. The main point is eliminating beliefs must be seen as a barrier to behavior change and not as a way to merely feel better. They don’t want to feel better, they want to do better and get better results.

4. How to find all the beliefs that underlie a problem

Of course I can’t explain how to do that in just a few paragraphs. However, what I can say is that to anyone who has this issue, please send me an email with any notes from a client with whom you could not find all the beliefs causing a problem and I’ll see how I can help you with that.

5. Stuck clients: For example a client still says she “feels” the belief and that the alternative interpretations are not real to her

It’s always hard to give general advice for “stuck clients.” If a client is in front of me, I’ll see much more than what a person can describe. However, in this case since the alternative interpretations are not real, some really creative work will need to happen with them. The best thing to do here is to record those sessions and then send the part where you are working on a belief that won’t go away. I would then have more specific ideas to help the client.

What do you think of the survey results or my answers to these questions?

Please leave any comments you have below.